Expulsion

03 Apr 2013

(This is Part III of III parts about Jannik’s birth. Check out Part I here and Part II here).

 

 
I curse flagrantly in high stress situations. It may be my fatal flaw. I’m really working on it but it’s hard and when you’re sitting on a toilet and you reach your hand down to your vagina and feel a baby’s head, there’s really just one thing to say: Oh Shit.

 
Which I shouted very loudly, followed quickly with “Henric get in here and f*cking catch this baby – it’s coming.” With that, I stood up and took a half step away from the toilet as Henric ran into the bathroom and at 12:04am, February 7th, 2013, a baby literally dropped out of me. I’m serious – no pushing, no people yelling “you can do it” / “breathe” / “one more big push” – he just fell out. Henric and I caught the baby together ala Bradley videos of Latin American squatting natives and I sat down on the bathroom floor with my new baby boy.

 
It was insane.

 
The baby quickly let out two little wails and settled down on my stomach. Jayme was on the phone with the midwife, shouting “the baby’s here! Oh my God, she just had the baby!” and all I could think was “Praise the Lord.” There is no way I could have continued laboring in that intense pain. From first contraction to birth, my labor lasted two hours and four minutes. Having had the stress test that evening, I know I wasn’t having contractions earlier, validating for me, the real intensity of the pain, most likely tied to how rapidly my junk had expanded to get the baby out.

 
Ten minutes later, Sally arrived for the end of the show and let me cut the umbilical cord. We hung out on the bathroom floor until the baby started nursing and within an hour of delivering, I was able to stand up and move into my own bed. Why a homebirth totally rocks: you get to get in your own bed with your own stuff and your own food and never have to leave your house or have all those people bothering you or keeping you up all night. With Jayme and Henric there to take care of everything, I got to spend the next five days in bed, just concentrating on the baby and my body. Totally awesome and definitely why I felt so great so quickly afterwards.

 

 

Sally stayed for several hours after the birth but by 3am, we were all in our respective beds and settling into our new life. Reflection on the whole experience for me is totally surreal. The thing that surprises me the most is how absolutely not scary it was as it was happening. Leading up to the birth, I had plenty of fears and doubts about everything that could go wrong with a homebirth. Henric and I had a lot of conversations about the consequences to our relationship and home life if things went wrong. I watched countless birthing videos and read a lot of negative critiques of homebirthing.

 

In the end, we stood by our decision but still, there were lingering doubts and fears going into childbirth, no matter where we were doing it. When the baby came, though, and the midwife wasn’t there and it was just Henric, Jayme and I, there was never a moment of fear or doubt for me. It felt like the most natural thing in the world. Sitting there on the bathroom floor, in a pool of fluid that had been festering in my stomach for the last nine months, holding my new baby with his umbilical cord still up in my stuff, was totally surreal and amazing.

 
(And anyways, I probably would’ve ended up having a home birth planned or not. Or a baby in a car. Because whose baby just falls out two hours and four minutes after the first contractions begin? And I’m pretty sure neither my car or health insurance policy covers auto detailing…)

 

 
Jannik Matthias Anders Goss Jentz born February 7th, 2013 at 12:04am, 8lbs 5oz, 21 inches long.

 

(The five names thing is a whole other conversation about three day postpartum hormones, my husband’s declaration that this is the last baby, and the result of two very long contrasting lists of possible baby names).

8 comments

  • Candy - April 3, 2013

    Congratulations on a beautiful baby and what a great story. I love the pictures with the toliet show just how fast he came out.
    I want a homebirth when there is a third glad you got yours.

  • melissa - April 3, 2013

    It was totally a great experience, Candy! Thanks for reading!

  • Jennifer P - April 4, 2013

    Wow – omg. Can’t believe I haven’t heard the details yet. And so glad you thought to move off the toilet. I can’t imagine what those 2 hours of cx felt like and glad Henric was with you when we watched those bradley birthing videos. Sounds like a wonderful experience – and quick – the best kind of labor. So happy you did a home birth and I hope you have shared your story with Bridget. Must talk soon! : )

  • katie ryan - April 4, 2013

    Way to go. This sounds amazing in every way. So happy for you that you pushed all the doubt aside and did it your way.

  • Izzy - April 21, 2013

    wow Goss! i am consistently amazed by your strength and love your sense of humor as well. this was so interesting and heart warming to read. so great to hear about your family! miss you all!

  • melissa - April 22, 2013

    Thanks, Izzy! Miss you, too!

  • Lissa - May 8, 2013

    That is amazeballs Melissa!! I love reading your reenactments! Miss you much and am so happy and excited for you all. Hugs from the ATX!

  • melissa - May 8, 2013

    thanks, Lissa!

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